When the Love is Gone

Well, I guess, 90% knows and experienced the trauma of not having a happy ending. Yung fact na you have given that person o yung relationship n’yo ng chance…after chance..after chance. T-R-A-U-M-A. Unti-unti mong nararamdaman na nawawala na yung love. Ano’ng natira? Traces and shadows of pain.

 

Alam kong madaling sabihin pero mahirap (sobrang hirap) gawin, pero wala ka naman talagang ibang choice kundi ang mag-MOVE ON.

 

The first question is, “How willing are you to move on?”

 

ACCEPTANCE.

 

Kailangan mong tanggapin na wala na talaga. Kailangang tanggapin na hindi talaga kayo para sa isa’t-isa. Ganun talaga eh. Kailangang tanggapin na TAPOS NA. Yes, it damn hurts, but you have to be strong.

 

Aminin mo, maraming beses mong pinagbigyan na magiging okay ang relasyon n’yo. Umasa ka na kaya pang magawan ng paraan. Kaso, minsan, obvious na naman na di na talaga pwede… IPINIPILIT mo lang. Ikaw lang yung TANGA na ayaw pang mag-move on. Bitaw na… TAMA NA.

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3 Steps to Move On

And the wind whispered to me saying, “You don’t need that kind of love.”

Closure happens right after you accept that letting go and moving on is more important than projecting a fantasy of “how the relationship could have been”. Never ask why someone keeps hurting you. Do you know what you should ask? “WHY YOU KEEP LETTING THEM.” How can we let the wound heal if we keep on touching it? Same thing with relationships, if it didn’t work and you really have to part ways after all the efforts, let it be…LET IT GO.

There are 3 steps to move on that I will share with you. And these are right there in your keyboard…

 

CTRL Control

⇒ Control yourself.

ALT – Alternate

⇒ Look for an alternate solution.

DEL Delete

⇒ Delete the situation that hurts you.

 

It may be the hardest thing you could ever do but it will be worth it. It could be very painful but you just have to be strong to let go. And in the end, you’ll be very proud of what you did. You did something for yourself. You simply gave yourself some respect. We may have loved the wrong person, cry for the wrong person, but one thing is for sure, mistakes will help us find the right person someday. Bear in mind that it is better to end something and start another than to imprison yourself in hoping  for the impossible.

Start a new hobby. Read a book. Focus on your work. Enjoy your time with your family, with your kids (if you have). Join different activities. Pamper yourself in a spa, massage or salon. Make yourself feel better. Keep yourself busy.

And of course, PRAY. Pray and ask for guidance that you’ll be able to handle what you’re going through very well. Have you watched the McDonald’s commercial last month?

 

 

It is not easy to detach from someone you’ve had close ties with, but sometimes, it’s necessary to restore your sanity. YOUR MIND PEACE.

 

“I’m learning to love the sound of my feet walking away from things  not meant for me.”